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Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We do not argue. The only tense subject we face is not seeing each other enough. I think he feels guilty for spending time with me when he doesn't see his kids as often as he would like. But shouldn't he realize that it isn't my fault he is divorced and he can have me and his kids and it will be amazing? I'm afraid that we will never be able to live together. I do get it, though. I have kids, too.
A: Red flag! But, you may be surprised at what we think it is. Yes, you are probably correct that your guy feels guilty. But the red flag we see is not only his guilt, but your naivete when it comes to combining families. As "amazing" as this all potentially is, you are already walking into problems with a man who harbors guilt about his divorce and the amount of time he can spend with his kids. That sort of guilt often spills into arguments, especially if it results in his not disciplining his children. And, when they're together, if he openly favors his kids in front of yours, that may feed resentment and affect his relationship with your children -- not to mention the resentment you may feel if he treats your kids differently than he treats his own.See the full content of this document
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Blending Families Not Easy
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